It’s that time of year again—beautiful weather, patios are full, trails are busy, and dogs are out living their best lives with their humans.

Which also means… lots of people wanting to say hi to dogs they don’t know.

Let’s talk about how to do that the right way.

Step 1: Pause First—Then Ask

Before you move toward the dog, stop.

Don’t approach. Don’t reach. And definitely don’t let kids run up.

Instead, ask the owner:
“Can I say hi?”

And respect the answer—whether it’s yes or no.

Step 2: Let the Owner Guide You

If they say yes, your next question should be:
“How do they like to be petted?”

Bonus points: ask if they have treats you can offer. If so, toss it to the dog instead of hand-feeding—it’s much less pressure.

PSA: Most dogs really, really don’t enjoy being patted on the head (aka the awkward forehead high-five).
Think instead: gentle shoulder touch or a scratch along the side of the body.

Step 3: Mind Your Eyes

Direct eye contact can feel intense—or even threatening—to a dog who doesn’t know you.

Soften your gaze. Look at their body, not straight into their eyes.

Step 4: The 3-Second Rule

Pet for about 3 seconds… then stop.

Now let the dog decide:

• If they lean in or stay → keep going
• If they move away → respect that and let them go

Consent matters—even with dogs.

Step 5: Skip the Hugs & Kisses

No hugging. No face kisses. No exceptions—especially with unfamiliar dogs.

What feels like affection to us can feel overwhelming (or scary) to them.

The Big Picture

Dogs, like people, deserve a say in who touches them and how.

Not every dog you see is friendly.
Not every dog you see wants interaction.
And some are actively working—especially service dogs or dogs in training.

Give them space. Let them focus. Let them succeed.

Final Thought

The best way to say “I love dogs” isn’t by rushing up to every pup you see…

It’s by respecting them.